{"id":6159,"date":"2024-08-23T02:39:16","date_gmt":"2024-08-23T02:39:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/she.org.nz\/?page_id=6159"},"modified":"2024-08-23T02:39:16","modified_gmt":"2024-08-23T02:39:16","slug":"how-to-help-a-loved-one","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/she.org.nz\/resources\/how-to-help-a-loved-one\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Help a Loved One"},"content":{"rendered":"[vc_row type=”full_width_background” full_screen_row_position=”middle” column_margin=”default” column_direction=”default” column_direction_tablet=”default” column_direction_phone=”default” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” row_border_radius=”none” row_border_radius_applies=”bg” overflow=”visible” id=”services” overlay_strength=”0.3″ gradient_direction=”left_to_right” shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none” shape_type=””][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_tablet=”inherit” column_padding_phone=”inherit” 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overflow=”visible” gradient_direction=”left_to_right” overlay_strength=”0.3″ width=”1\/1″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” animation_type=”default” enable_animation=”true” animation=”fade-in-from-bottom” animation_easing=”default” bg_image_animation=”none” border_type=”simple” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid”][vc_column_text text_direction=”default”]Being a victim of family violence is never a choice<\/strong><\/p>\n

Only the person using violence can choose whether the violence stops or continues.<\/p>\n

Victims might make the choice to end the relationship, but that doesn\u2019t mean they can end the violence. People often want to tell victims to \u2018just leave\u2019 their abusers. But leaving is not always safer than staying. Women are most likely to be killed around the time that they are separating from their abusers. Of women who access Women\u2019s Refuge, 50% believe their abusers might kill them at the time that they reach out for help.<\/p>\n

It is important when speaking to a loved one experiencing abuse to ask the right questions and actively listen to the answers:<\/strong><\/p>\n